tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post9186536121072006739..comments2023-08-10T06:26:48.159-04:00Comments on Amber Page Writes: Eight Ways A Baby Changes Your Marriage.Amber Page Writeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03288534853490787988noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-36607061434212998182010-05-21T15:50:15.746-04:002010-05-21T15:50:15.746-04:00I found you through Alexandra's blog (your fel...I found you through Alexandra's blog (your fellow Sunshine awardee :-)). I love this post. Oh, have I been there. It is hard. I remember those days, when you can't even sit and eat together at the same time. My hubby and I started out as twins, synchronized in every way, and then so many things happened that felt like we were splitting apart. But our "baby" is now 6 yrs old and we are still here, new and improved. Today in fact is our anniversary and we will have our first real date since our baby was 2 mos old! But take it from me, don't wait this long. It does get easier as the children get older and you will emerge intact albeit different, but not in a bad way. There are fewer sparks now but more commitment. I had to learn that the fairy tale simply takes a different form and that is okay :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-74747073906065568552010-05-20T10:34:51.117-04:002010-05-20T10:34:51.117-04:00I'm not a mom yet but appreciated reading your...I'm not a mom yet but appreciated reading your post AND all the comments. It's good to be honest with yourself about how things will change once a baby enters the relationship. I think about it a lot and hope that while things will certainly change, we'll figure out how to work through it all while still maintaining our marriage. (Of course, I've got at least a year or so to figure all this out, lol.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-86282978401346706422010-05-19T22:24:28.522-04:002010-05-19T22:24:28.522-04:00Umm...yes, these things are true. Having a newborn...Umm...yes, these things are true. Having a newborn is difficult and stressful and it puts a strain on your relationship. <br /><br />HOWEVER, sharing infinite love for a living being that you created together, bonding over the plight to keep said being safe, quietly watching each other develop as parents and reap requited love from that being all form the bond that keep you together through the first year of sleepless nights and projectile vomit. <br /><br />When its all done, you're left closer. Really. One of the greater moments I had this year was after my husband got irritated with me for doing something I repeatedly do despite that it pisses him off. He was bitching at me for it, but I realized while he was that it didn't matter. He still loved me and this annoyance didn't affect his love at all. None. Not a single bit and as he bitched, he knew it, too.Melissahttp://www.lovemedaily.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-46522874578370730972010-05-19T07:41:46.167-04:002010-05-19T07:41:46.167-04:00This was a great post! My marriage totally change...This was a great post! My marriage totally changed after having a child. I mean, totally. They say that having a baby either brings you closer together or pulls you apart, and it pulled us apart for sure. I think that you just inevitably become two different people after having kids. And sometimes they still work well together and sometimes they don't. Our son is four now, and we are slowly making our way back towards the people we once were. We are finding ourselves having fun again and enjoying each other and remembering why we got married in the first place. Yeah...I think we'll be just fine! That is, as long as we don't get ballsy and have another kid. Then I'll need a divorce attorney.The Mommyologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957108098571392880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-27645444751411892632010-05-19T01:39:37.283-04:002010-05-19T01:39:37.283-04:00It's so good to see someone tell the truth. I ...It's so good to see someone tell the truth. I run into a fair bunch of people who say, "they never have a cross word, and babies made their love union better."<br /><br />Puke.<br /><br />It is hard: and you have to make time to be together. You have to put the kids to bed early, or arrange overnights for all of them.<br /><br />You have to: otherwise you just become roommates, and that's not good for anyone. Anyone.<br /><br />Excellent post. Thank you.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-44140734088593718802010-05-19T00:12:21.663-04:002010-05-19T00:12:21.663-04:00Oh no, babies haven't changed our marriage a b...Oh no, babies haven't changed our marriage a bit. See, we were boring Netflix people waaaaay before the babe!<br /><br />Can I add another to your list? <br /><br />Saturday evenings relaxing at the bar? Sure, we do that. The bar is the case of Miller in my fridge, and I am lounging, relaxed on the couch.<br /><br />There is no such thing as dressing up and going out anymore.Me Toohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217022145109147260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-86193944578160165632010-05-19T00:09:52.720-04:002010-05-19T00:09:52.720-04:00It starts to go back to normal a teeny bit when th...It starts to go back to normal a teeny bit when the kiddos get a little older....SurferWifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01957211169192231576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-1969308806212904712010-05-19T00:00:15.758-04:002010-05-19T00:00:15.758-04:00Um. Not yet. (no babies.) But I have heard these...Um. Not yet. (no babies.) But I have heard these same feelings expressed by others so I am kind of bracing myself for it.Tina L. Hookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12780807680745838371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-18281130435475916232010-05-18T22:32:23.561-04:002010-05-18T22:32:23.561-04:00Ahahahahahah, babies won't change a marriage. ...Ahahahahahah, babies won't change a marriage. That was a good laugh. :-)Allison @ Alli 'n Sonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17046247622825649638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-38992987282531730662010-05-18T22:17:16.822-04:002010-05-18T22:17:16.822-04:00Wow...I'm with you on all of those but I do th...Wow...I'm with you on all of those but I do think there is just so much more love to go around, if that is even possible. I do wish for a little more old school excitement though and as you said, I would love for hubs to actually make it through a couch movie...but he never does.<br /><br />It will all come back hon...it just takes about 18 years and they move out right?Brittany at Mommy Wordshttp://www.mommywords.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554962983477029310.post-30595003605128509652010-05-18T21:49:06.756-04:002010-05-18T21:49:06.756-04:00Oh, I loved this post! I don't have any childr...Oh, I loved this post! I don't have any children yet, and of course worry about how they'd affect a relationship. I LOVED your last point on still being best friends.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05490759375036511747noreply@blogger.com